How to Embrace Being Single: Christian Singleness

Although we may call seasons in our lives a season of waiting, that is not all that we should be doing. Your season of singleness may be a period of waiting but it’s also a season of preparation. A season of development. A season of devotion. A season of adventure, discovery, joy, peace, fulfillment etc.

Your single season may not always feel like a blessing but it is and it’s as simple as changing your perspective and how you use this time. Singleness is a time we should use intentionally. We shouldn’t just wait to wait but embrace this season for however long it may be. God has provided this season for a reason and until you start living with purpose and intention, you’ll realize what a gift this time in your life is. Here are a few tips to remember during this pivotal time in your life.

1. Remember it’s a season

If you feel called into marriage and God has placed this on your heart, remember that being single won’t last a lifetime. This season is just that, a season, a period of time that has an end. Now, it’s up to us to decide how we spend our time during this season. Will we use it wisely or just let the time pass? Life doesn’t start when you find your person. Your life is divided into seasons and this may be one of them. Use this time and live in every moment of it. Embrace what is your present circumstances.

2. Use this time to devote yourself to God

Become rooted in your faith. Your faith is a journey, we will never reach a point where we stop learning about God or a point where we know all that we need to know. Use this single season to wholeheartedly know and love God. Create and build your life on a firm foundation. God has a purpose for you in this season. Take the time to sit and talk to Him. What does he want you to do during this time? Pray, listen and take action.

3. Become healthy and whole

Build healthy habits and become that girl you want to be. Do you want to start waking up earlier? Do you want to start working out regularly? Do you want to meet new people and find new friends? Do you want to focus on your career? Is there a side hustle that has been on your heart but you just haven’t started it? Create the life you want in this season.

4. Be comfortable alone and independent

Being an introvert, I love alone time, maybe too much. I love time to re-charge, be able to journal, self-reflect, know my interests and hobbies. Although we are most certainly not built to live this life alone, I do think it’s important to be able to enjoy and spend time by yourself. To truly be content independently. Take yourself on solo dates, try new hobbies and learn to know and love yourself wholly.

5. Use your time as you want

Relationships take time, commitment, effort and energy. It’s certainly another responsibility added to your list that requires devotion of your time. You have more flexibility with your time as a single woman. You don’t have to compromise your schedules or plans to accommodate a partner. How will you use your time to love and serve others well? What’s on your bucket list that you’ve been meaning to check off? Take that bestie trip, volunteer at your church, go on a solo trip.

This is not to say that doing these things are not possible when you have a significant other nor is it to say that you are meant to be restricted from doing the things you want to do when you’re in a committed relationship. But, it is to say that you will most likely be spending more time with your partner in a relationship and may not have as much time as you had when you were single.

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God has a purpose for you in this season of singleness. Embrace it and use this time intentionally. What has God put on your heart for this devoted period of time. For me, it was launching this blog!