“Loneliness is an opportunity to find yourself. In solitude, you are least alone.” ― Bruce Lee
In our fast-paced world, spending quality time with oneself can be overlooked. Yet, there is so much beauty and opportunity for growth in embracing solitude and treating yourself to a solo date. Whether you’re an introvert seeking time to recharge or simply aiming to foster self-love, solo dates can be such an enriching experience.
Are there things you’ve been meaning to try? Maybe it’s that cool restaurant that just opened up. Or maybe you want to try a new hobby. Often trying new things or making plans depend heavily on coordinating schedules. As you get older, aligning availability with friends or family can seem nearly impossible. Why not try something new on your own, around your own schedule?
Some may find solo dates boring or uncomfortable. But solo dates are an opportunity to become comfortable in being alone and becoming more independent. Find out more about who you are. Be more open to conversating with strangers that pass you by. Take time to relax and do what you want to do. Here are 5 solo date ideas that promise to nourish your soul and deepen your connection with yourself:
1. Visit a coffee shop
Spend the day surrounded by the aroma of coffee and the sound of low chatter. Coffee shops bring me comfort and the coziest environment. It’s often a peaceful place to read a book or spend time journaling your thoughts. Take the time to journal and prepare journaling prompts to get you thinking about your life, current goals, progress and things you are doing well and things you want to work on. There’s something about a caramel latte and the cozy atmosphere of coffee shops that bring peace and reflection.
2. Try a new hobby
Trying new hobbies can often be an after thought. Where can we fit these new activities into our schedule. Be intentional about what new activities you want to try and plan ahead to create time for it. New hobbies will teach you more about your self, will help you discover new strengths, likes and dislikes and can be a good way to spend your free time.
3. Spend time in nature
Take time to surround yourself in nature. Head to the beach, take a stroll on the waterfront, embark on a hike or even set out on the waters on a kayak. Embrace the peace that nature brings. Take notice of your senses-the sounds of the birds, the feeling of the wind, the vibrant colours. Consider packing a picnic and a good book to savor the moments of solitude.
4. Try new restaurants
The list of new and unique restaurants is endless. Is there a restaurant you’ve been meaning to try? Treat yourself and take yourself out to enjoy a feel-good meal.
5. Spiritual retreat
You could really make any of these solo dates a spiritual retreat in the presence of God. Be intentional about how you use your time. Journal through what God is teaching you in this current season of your life. What do you feel like God is saying to you? Is there anything you can do better or change to live a life that better reflects the life of Jesus?
Consider taking a day (or a few if you can) to disconnect from the world and connect with Him. Read more on how to practice the discipline of solitude and transform your solo dates to solo dates with God.
Solo dates are your way to try new things and savour life all while getting to know yourself better. This may be a habit that you can only do occasionally, but decide how often you can spare some time and commit to it- prioritize time for you.
